Maria Ruiz is a mother and a lawyer, an immigrant and a community
health worker, a published author, and also, a survivor of domestic violence. We
are proud to say she is a recent graduate of Catalyst Miami’s Parent LeadershipTraining Institute.
Maria and her three children endured abuse throughout her 21-year
marriage. When she came to Miami from Venezuela in October 2009 it was with
only two of her daughters. Her oldest child had committed suicide, as Maria
puts it, “to
break free from domestic violence.” At that time, Maria was coming to
understand that her husband’s violence was not merely an element of marital
strife; it was deeply affecting her children.
This realization put her on a path to becoming an advocate and a healer
in her community.
After
a short time in Miami, Maria’s husband came to see her and their children. His
violent behavior eventually led to a visit from the police. One of the officers
encouraged Maria to get a restraining order and wrote down directions to the
courthouse. The very next day Maria was on a bus headed downtown to begin the
process of separating legally from her husband and becoming a resident of the
United States.
In
getting a divorce, Maria gave up quite a bit of money and property, but gained
tranquility and liberation for her daughters. As a barista at Maxine's Restaurant and Lounge in
Miami Beach, she started saving up to start her own organization, Fundación AngelMariposa, to help families affected by domestic violence heal themselves and break
the cycle of violence.
As a participant in the latest class of the Parent Leadership Training
Institute (PLTI), Maria learned how to match her dreams with resources that
could help her launch a community project, which she calls Mujer Mariposa. Through
this program, women participate in support groups, attend workshops on healthy
eating and take Zumba and Raiki classes. Maria believes that for children to be
healthy, their mothers must also be healthy, which is why she is passionate
about helping women seek therapy and support.
When Maria reflects on the journey she has taken, she doesn’t sound
bitter towards her ex-husband. She comments that he still has their big house
in Venezuela, but he is alone in it; he doesn’t have his family. She speaks proudly
of how her daughters have learned to demand respect. Having seen such
transformation in her own family, Maria is not content to rest; instead she is
using the lessons she learned to help others heal.
